Even if you aren’t Catholic, you are familiar with the image of the Madonna and child. This is the symbol
of Mary holding Christ. The imagery predates the Catholic church’s hijacking of the image. The symbolic
display of mother and child is found all throughout the ancient world. One of the most prominent
versions of this image (and most likely the source of the Catholic version) is from Egypt with Auset (Isis)
and her son Heru (Horus). This imagery was far flung with the worship of both finding its way all into
Greece and Italy before and during the era of the Roman Empire.
Looking at the image one thing that you notice is the lack of the father. In the Christian tradition “god” is
an absentee father and Joseph steps up and takes on the role. In the Egyptian tradition it was the
enemies of Ausar (Osiris) who killed him removing him from the lives of Auset and Heru. If you look at
the Black and Brown communities we have several single mothers whose mate is absent due to not
stepping up to the job or being removed due to some external factor. In the lives of their children they
are either physically dead or mentally dead. We are left then with the single mother who is singled out
as the failure of the family structure though in many cases she is carrying a burden that is beyond what
most can comprehend.
There is divinity in the presence of the single mother and child. This is not an article to bash single
mothers (though there are some horrible ones). This is also not an article to single out absentee fathers
(who some aren’t allowed to come into their children’s lives). We are simply going to speak on the single
mother who has been declared to be the ills of everything in society from the economy to the state of
Black and Brown crime in America. I want to have you to reflect on that imagery of mother and child as
Madonna and Christ or Auset and Heru.
That woman is the vessel through which the unseen is made seen. Many ancient societies took a while
to realize the source of life in terms of the birth process yet they saw the effect of that source as the
pregnancy of the Original woman happened. And our wise forbearers noticed how that process
unfolded parallel to the birth process of flora and fauna. They started to see cyclical time eras in the sun,
the moon and the starts. They realized that in her womb the mystery of life was starting to unveil itself.
They saw that she held a sea within her.
The denigration of Black and Brown single mothers is a weaponized psychological weapon that was
planted in our community. Looking at older traditional Black and Brown communities concepts such as
“bastard” and stuff was very rare. The reason that it is so prominent is western society is because the
strong connection between male lineage and inheritance. In Original communities we have always
acknowledged that it takes a village to raise a child. There is one community. That child is my child. That
woman is still to be under my protection. Whether or not one has a strict mono-personal relationship
doesn’t matter one bit.
My son came into my life when he was a little over one years old (I can’t believe he’s 16 now..in
fact…I’m going to pretend like he isn’t taller than me). I was with his mother for a little over eight years.
His physical father was nowhere to be found. I remember one time his mother and I got into an
argument. During the course of it she said “I gave you my greatest gift, my son.” That has always stayed
with me. These women protect and cherish the babies of the community. My father told me that if I
ever decided to become involved with a woman with children they are your children at that point. He
said you show and prove how much you love her only through how much you respect and love her
children. Since that time I have been involved with women with children and always on my mental is this
child is her best part. Let me show my reverence that I have for the woman through the full
acknowledgement of her child in space and time.
To my fellas out there….that woman is gonna qualify or disqualify you as a man. How you interact with
her children reveals whether you are weak or strong. She is looking to see that glimmer in your eye. Are
you “Yahweh” or are you “Ausar”? Are you man enough to realize that you are to be a man of the
community and step up where another man has failed? We don’t do that “step-dad” stuff in our
communities. Either you are or aren’t a man who is stepping fully into the role of father.
Original Woman, settle for nothing less. There are men out there who recognize the weight in your
heart. They are willing and capable to cherish you and yours. Harden not your hearts. Sometimes what
you are looking for is right in front of your face yet you can’t see it like you can’t see your nose. The
mother and child are part of the community. Together we are community. If you aren’t important than
that image of mother and child would’ve long faded from people’s mental. We see you though. We see
that divinity that is you.
C’BS ALife Allah is the co-author of the ground breaking Science of Self: Man, God and the Mathematical Language of Nature and the co-editor of the seminal Hood Health Handbook: A Guide to Health and Wellness in the Urban Community. He also is a contributing writer to the Hood Health 101 column at the Source blog. He is a community solutionary who concentrates on Hood Health, Science of Self, the Black Presence and youth empowerment. You can find more about him at www.alifeallah.com official webpage.
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